The Dos and Don’ts of Wedding Invitations

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Wedding etiquette is a tricky subject.
Even today with anything goes attitudes, there are still expectations, rules and guidelines that should be followed. These are simple and can make any brides life much easier when it comes to wedding invitations. And remember, LUXXE can always help you out if you have any questions! Happy planning!


  • Do allow plenty of time. Plan enough time in your schedule to carefully address and mail your invitations.
  • Do use the names of all guests when possible. It is much warmer and more welcoming to use the correct names of those who will accompany your guests on invitations instead of “and guest.” Now, it’s completely understandable when you have those guests that may or may not bring a date for the wedding season (I’m now envisioning the great movie, The Wedding Crashers).
  • Do use correct titles. It’s flattering when invitations are addressed correctly. This means using appropriate titles and spelling names correctly. When in doubt, ask before addressing. “Mr”, “Ms” & “Mrs” always puts a formal spin on addressing invites or when doing place cards.
  • Do proofread everything! I cannot stress this enough! While working with LUXXE, even though we work hard on every detail, I would routinely encourage my brides to look over the spelling and placement of text. While LUXXE could catch mistakes like street name misspellings, I have to rely on brides to tell if names are correct. Don’t be the couple that has to reprint, or even worse, seeing the dreaded follow up or cover up to fix an easy mistake.
  • Do order extra invitations. It is VERY expensive and time consuming to order more invitations after the fact.  If your event is a wedding, formal occasion or a business event, you will want to order at least 15-25 extra invitations. Even for casual parties, order extra. You might need to resend an invitation, you forgot someone that should have been on your guest list or your parents forgot that the card club HAS to be invited.
  • Do send your invitations six to eight weeks before the wedding ceremony and reception. Any earlier will cause your wedding invites to arrive too close to your save-the-dates. Any later, some may struggle with finding time off work, arranging a child care provider, etc.


  • Don’t forget to include any appropriate inserts, such as hotel information, accommodations for out-of-town guests or any visitor information needed. As for maps & directions… it’s 2015, most people use their phones for GPS. Save yourself some cash on these!
  • Don’t include registry or gift information with your invitation. It is in poor taste to insert a list of places where the bride and groom are registered or a checklist of the things they want and don’t want.
  • Don’t use a standby guest list. When possible, invite your entire guest list at the same time rather than waiting to see how many people accept before sending out a second round of invitations. When the guest list is carefully planned, and when you consider the likelihood that 10-20 percent of invited guests typically send regrets, this approach is much more straightforward than using a standby list.
  • Don’t attempt to squeeze reception information onto the bottom of the wedding invite. Yes, you’ll save money on an extra enclosure card, but the overall effect will be confusing to your guests. The ceremony and reception are two separate events, and thus, their information should be on completely separate pieces of paper or in it’s own area if there is actual room.
  • Don’t use address labels for wedding invitations. Always address wedding invitation envelopes either by hand, use your best girlfriends amazing handwriting skills or do the new trend by creating a wrap with them individually personalized. LUXXE can also easily do this for you! We create wraps to match your invitations!
  • Don’t buy postage until you weigh one of your invitations.  If your invitations are anything more than the invitation and an envelope or if they are square or an unusual size, take one to the post office complete with all the inserts and have them weighed to ensure you use the correct postage. And to save some cost, use a postcard RSVP, they are amazing these days! Not only does it save you on postage for both RSVP and outside envelope; it saves on envelope cost, printing of the envelope. What a deal!

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