Your 1st Impression to Guests… and the down low on invitation wording

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Not sure what proper wedding etiquette to use on your wedding invitations? LUXXE at Brides & Beyond are here to help! As we always stress, your wedding invitations are the first impression your guests get. Wording is important and goes a long way. These tips below can help set the mood for your big day!

  1. What information should I include in my wedding invitation?

Your wedding invitation should include the basic information such as who is hosting, the name of the bride and groom, the Date, Time and Location.

A traditional example would be:

Together with their parents
Rebecca Lynne Stover
Jason Michael Stover
Invite you to join in the celebration of their marriage

Saturday, the fourth of April
two thousand fifteen
at half after five in the evening

Westminster Beach Club
235 Belmont Shore
Westminster, Indiana

Reception immediately following

  1. Should we include the groom’s parents on the invitations if they are not hosting?

If the groom’s parents are not hosting the entire wedding, traditionally it is not necessary to include their names on the invitation. However, it is essential to add them if they are helping the brides parents with wedding. Furthermore, it is up to you and can been seen as a nice gesture of uniting the families by including them.

  1. How do I word my wedding invitation if my parents are divorced?

Sad to say, but this is one of the most commonly asked questions. And, one of the most stickiest subjects out there to be placed on an invitation.

If your parents are divorced and single hosting, list each of them separately on the Invitations:
Mr. David Jones and
Ms. Julie Brown
Invite you to celebrate the marriage of their daughter…

If only one parent is hosting, only that parents name is necessary:
Mr. David Jones
Requests the pleasure of your company at the marriage of his daughter…

If your parents are divorced and remarried:
Mr. and Mrs. David & Allison Jones
Mr. and Mrs. George & Julie Addams
Request the pleasure of your company at the marriage of their daughter…

  1. My fiancé and I are hosting the wedding with our families, how would we word the wedding invitations?

To include everyone on the invitation you may use the phrase: “Together with their parents” or “Together with their families” at the top of the invitation. An alternative option would be writing out both sets of the parents’ names on the invitation.

  1. What names should I use on the wedding invitation?

For a more formal approach, use your full name, first, middle and last. If your friends and family call you a name other than you real name it is recommended to add the name you go by on the invitation. You don’t want to confuse your guests and have them not know who you are. For example, if your real name is Patrick Jake Miller, and you go by Jake, make sure to add Jake on the invitation either with your full name or as Jake Miller. Choosing what names to use is completely up to you and your style, whether you want to use only your first name, first and middle, or full name, do what makes you comfortable.

  1. Do we use punctuations on the invitation?

No punctuation is used except after titles such as Mr., Mrs. and Dr. I know it is very hard to do when you want to fit everything on one panel card but LUXXE highly advises the full spelling of states, times, dates, etc.

  1. What is the difference between “request the honor of your presence” and “honor of your company”?

Using “request the honor of your presence” refers to a ceremony that occurs in a place of worship, such as a church or synagogue. The use of “request the pleasure of your company ” is used for other venues. BUT, this is used lightly. In this situation, it’s now-a-days an “all goes” situation.

  1. How should we write the wedding date?

Depending on how traditional or informal you want your wedding invitation to be there is a variety of ways to include the date. The formal way would be to write out the entire date completely, “Saturday, the twenty-third of June two thousand and fifteen”. For those with a more non-traditional invitation you can also include the date as normal or all in numbers. Some common examples would be:

Saturday, June 23, 2015
23 June 2015
June 23, 2015

  1. How do we state the time of the wedding?

The time can be written in a variety of was to fit your style and theme. For example, if your wedding is at 5:30 p.m. the traditional wording to use is “half after five o’clock” or “five-thirty in the evening.” If this is too formal for your style, you may write the time simply as 5:30 p.m.

  1. I am having the ceremony and reception at the same location, how do I fit all the information on the wedding invitation?

If your wedding ceremony and reception are being held at the same venue, there is no need to include a separate reception card. Instead, adding a single line to the bottom of your wedding invitation with a phrase along the lines of “Reception to immediately follow.” Or LUXXE’s new favorite… “Please join us for dinner and dancing following the ceremony”.

  1. Should I include a dress code?

Typically from the style of your Invitations the time, setting and season of the event, your guests can decide on what dress is best for the occasion. However, if you would prefer your guest to arrive in specific attire, such as black tie, or cock tail, etc. including this information at the bottom of your wedding invitations is optional. For example: “The ceremony & reception will be on the lawn; choose your footwear accordingly.” or “This will be an outdoor ceremony and receptions, please bring a sweater or a jacket to keep warm.”

  1. How do we inform guest that it is adult only?

Writing “no children” or “adults only” on your wedding invitations is not considered polite. BUT, for some strange reason, over the last few years, people feel that they can add to your guest list, bring their children (even if they are not on the outside envelope) and feel it’s ok. So, take it with a grain of salt and decide if you want to spell it out and get your point across or you go another route indicate the number of guests and their names the response cards.

A subtle attempt would be an example on an RSVP like this:

We have reserved _____ seats in your honor

___ of ___ Attending
___ of ___ Declining

And if you want to be extra-extra clear, you can just go ahead and say it, but we suggest to place on your reception cards, like this:

Please celebrate with us at an adults-only reception immediately following the ceremony at (location)…
Respectfully, an adult occasion.

If you receive calls asking whether or not children can come, be honest and explain, you are having a small intimate wedding or that the venue is not child friendly.

LUXXE at Brides Beyond can also help you with any questions along the way you may have!!!

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